Life Style

Choosing a life partner: solution to happy marriage 

Happy marriage is all people desired, being happy with your partner (husband/wife) is very essential, an evidence of good living. Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official and legal. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putative last until death, but in practice is increasing cut short by divorce. One of the key elements of happy marriage is choosing a right life partner. Choosing a life partner is an act or process of selecting an individual with the right personality you like and love. There is a wide cross-cultural variation, religion and social rules governing the selection of partner for marriage. There is variation in the degree to which partner selection is an individual decision by the partner or a collective decision by the partner kings groups and there rules regulating which partner are valid for choice. In other cultures with less strict rules governing groups from which partner can be chosen the selection process of a marriage partner may involve either the couple going through a selection process of courtship or the marriage may be arrange by couple parents or an outside party, a matchmaker. Selection of a partner is a major determinant in the life circle of marriage and also of an individual. Choosing a partner with the right attitude, whom you feel safe with, who loves you the same way you love him/her or even more. For one to be happy he/she need a good partner who care so much about him/her and also who share his/her happiness. To be happy in marriage, one has to choose the right partner; that is the partner with a right attitude. Because of love, lust, hope, desperation, faith, and/or just plain naive, people tend to rationalize the behaviours or attitudes that twig them the wrong way. In reality, however, these signs serve us as flashing red lights of potential areas of future issues, conflicts, and even division and divorce. One truly needs to reflectively, maturely, and individually take a step back while in dating or courtship mode in order to assess such aspects. What is it about that behaviour or that attitude that bothers me so much? What does it indicate about my partner? How could I live with it if it got even worse, because in reality it probably will or your perception of it will make it seem so? Another common mistake is to ignore others' opinions of your relationship. By others, I am referring to those significant people in your life who know you, love you, and have your best interests at heart. If you ever have a person like that in your life who expresses any concern about your relationship, it is wise to sit down, and as objectively and openly as possible, *listen* to what she or he has to say. Be honest in return. Ask questions. Get to the bottom of it. Afterwards, spend time in quiet reflection considering what the person has shared in order to properly assess and determine next steps. Force marriage may lead to many things such as unhappiness, suicide, adultery, murder etc. Wrong selection could also lead to these. Boys and girls should be guided in their choice of a life partner; instead of parents to choosing by themselves. Many parents go after wealth, but the heart knows what its desire, couple can be poor but happy and be rich without happiness in marriages.